Have you ever thought about why you get upset? Not the event that caused you upset, but the root behind the actual anger. Many times I see people getting angry over something that in the long run it doesn’t amount to anything. Our anger presents itself in many different ways, sometimes we get upset over a spouse leaving their clothes on the floor, especially when the dirty clothes hamper is literally a few feet away. We get upset when that motorist cuts us off without using their turn signal, or when someone asks us to do something that we really don’t want to do, but we do it anyway (although it is begrudgingly)
Recently I have thought about why I get upset. Again I know the cause of my irritation in that particular instance, but I’m talking about why I was susceptible to being irritated in the first place. I know that somebody telling me good morning in a chipper way should not make me get so upset, but sometimes it does.
I used to be a youth leader/teacher. When one of them would get super upset and angry because somebody at school made comments or did something, I would sit them down and ask a very specific question, “ In 5 years is this situation going to matter?” Most of the time the answer was “No,” in a very sarcastic teen like response. I hope that the brief time I spent with these kids I was able to instill in them the calmness of the Spirit. If they were going to get upset, let’s at least put it into perspective. Most of the time the small reason that set us off has nothing to do with our anger, and probably is kind of silly.
It all boils down to the root of the problem, I’m angry at something else and it manifests in my annoyance of this situation. So I must find out why I’m angry in the first place to set myself up to be in a better mood elsewhere in my life.
Usually we are angry at ourselves before anyone else. My answer to this problem is reliance. If we rely on self we will let ourselves down almost every time. If we rely on others, we’ll be let down more often than not, but if we put our faith and trust in God and know that his will is best for us (whatever that may be) we can move forward with less anger.
Will it be easy?
Will it be fun?
Will we make it?
With God’s will taking the front seat we can only see the greatness that is ahead of us and we will see that the little things that used to upset us are just that ‘little things’ that become noise in our day to day life.